I was thinking about how people put so much pressure and seriousness on saying "I love you" in a relationship. Some couples see this as a relationship taking a quick turn for serious lane, while others are saying I love you 2 months into dating each other.
So how do you know when it's the right time, and how do you know what it actually means to the other person? Personally I tell people that I love them because I honestly do, and I want them to know how much I care about and love them.
So next time (if there is a next time.. hello forever alone with her dog lady)* that I am involved with someone and I am overwhelmed with how much I care about them what do I say to let them know? I can almost guarantee the first time I say I love you even in an admirable tone that guy is running like Forest Gump except he isn't coming back..
How awkward would is it to be cuddling with someone and you look them straight in the eyes and say "I care about you." With no follow up.. you just stop there. Or you say "I like you so much." That makes me feel as embarrassed as I was the first time I saw Breaking Dawn.
And maybe this comes down to the difference between loving someone and being in love with someone. Also, doesn't love mean different things to different people? I'm just curious how y'all express your emotions without sending the opposite sex running across the United States.
* Please don't misunderstand. I am actually perfectly okay with being alone with my dog for the rest of my life. She doesn't look at me funny when I tell her "I love you" she just cuddles in a little bit closer.
I wish I could help here but I can't, I don't even remember the first time I told Tyson I loved him. I think you just have to go with your gut and do it when it feels right.
ReplyDeleteWith Iman it was different because he had been my best friend for a long time, so he knew I loved him. I also never start dating someone officially unless I know that I love them and want to have a future with them. So us becoming boyfriend and girlfriend meant I was in love with him. So for me, saying "I'm in love with you" was the big thing.
ReplyDeleteI definitely think love means different things to different people. I've always been the girl who would run away if a guy told me they loved me. I'd say something like "thank you" or panic and kiss them and not say it back. [I acted like Jess in New Girl when Nick said he loved her]. But, I guess just do what feels right. If a guy tells you he loves you and you don't feel it yet, be honest. It doesn't mean you won't feel it, it just might not be yet.