I CAN'T HANDLE THIS.

I recently deleted the Facebook app off of my phone and have not missed it once. Occasionally I like to read my newsfeed just to keep up, but even then I get annoyed by the ads and obnoxious game invites. While scrolling through my feed, I found this gem. Someone that I went to high school with decided to update us with her thoughts on the TV show Modern Dads.

Modern dads is a pathetic show. The theme song talks about them at home while the mom works to pay the bills. My theory you are not a man if You as the man of the house can't provide for your family and the female is working to support the family. That's just sad.
Note: 10 people liked this status

Let me start by saying I have not seen this show and nor do I care to. From the comments on this status it seems like most of the show may be scripted. You should also know this is a girl who is married and currently expecting her first child. As if this status wasn't enough, her husband commented this second catastrophe.

The southern tradition is that a man provides for his family unless its a single mother. I believe that the man should provide as much as possible for his family. I'm not going to put it on my wife to have the baby (which I hear is painful) and then her be the sole person responsible for income while I stay at home. Just my opinion.

This is a classic case of sexism and gender roles.
 I JUST recently posted about sexism here. 

There are so many things wrong with this statement. Here are my feelings about this absurd status update and the comment. U is the status update, C is the comment.

 U & C - I'm pretty sure I could find several stay at home moms that would agree with me when I say that staying at home with their kids is a full time job. It consist of more than 40 hours and the mom doesn't get to leave her work and go home. Just because the husband comes home doesn't mean her work is done. (For the record I have no children and never will. So please, stay at home mommies if I am wrong correct me.)

U & C - As for the men, you should know that being at stay at home dad does not make you any less masculine. 

U & C - Providing for your family is not strictly defined by having an income. A family and children need much more than just money. I promise you.

C - Once upon a time women weren't allowed to work. They weren't allowed to vote. Personally, I enjoy the rights I do have as a woman and I'll be damned if I will let ANY man or woman take that shit from me.

C - What defines a single mother? Are you saying that if a man and woman divorce the man doesn't have to "provide" for his family anymore? 

U & C - If I am more educated or more successful than my husband why would I stay home? Should my family suffer financially because society thinks I belong cooking and cleaning? 

C - Being southern does not mean being sexist. I was born and raised in the south and I disagree entirely with everything they both said. Just because I am a woman who refuses to be defined by societies definition of a woman doesn't make me any less southern.

(I'm saving NC politics for another post.)

U - The worst part of this all is possibly that the reason she had these thoughts in the first place is because this is what society taught her. She was raised to believe this. 

I am embarrassed and ashamed that a women would belittle herself so much.

I want you to understand that in no way am I saying a stay at home mom is uneducated, unsuccessful, or belittling herself by staying home. Most women become stay at home mothers because they want to. With the support and agreement of their significant other and the financial capability they agree it is better for the children. There is absolutely nothing wrong with this. My point is that the woman should have the choice, and the man should be comfortable taking on this role may it become an option. 

I also realize that some women stay at home because its cheaper than paying for daycare. If one of the parents income was the amount of money daycare for a year would cost, then why wouldn't you weigh your options? Sounds like common sense to me. 

PLEASE, tell me your thoughts. 
I am extremely curious to see what everyone has to say.

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